just like…..the bizarre vitriolic hatred i see on here for autistic ppl who like “childish” things made for little kids is so frustrating and heartbreaking to me. allistics already hate us and infantilize us, so they see an autistic person who happen to like something “childish” and mock us for it.
but what really breaks my heart is seeing OTHER autistic ppl who think of themselves as being “better” than those who like “childish” things and make fun of them bc theyve been taught to hate by an ableist society. doesnt it get exhausting. doesnt it hurt inside to be full of the lies and hatred neurotypicals taught you. doesnt it hurt to take out that hatred on your fellow autistic ppl, to mock them for something that allistics already mock them for. why. why do you do this. who did this to you.
All right, my autistic mutuals. Auntie Autistic-af talking time.
You can like whatever the hell you want. I am 40 years old. I am an old bog hag compared to the average age on this app.
I have a literal toy box of stuff that I enjoy. Why? Because I enjoy it.
I have a kids tea set. I visually stim with it be because I like how it looks. I have colouring books and crayons and baby toys that click and clack and to hold them all I bought a cheap toy box.
I also collect stuffed animals and have over 100.
You are allowed to enjoy these things for no reason at all.
And if you’re an allistic or autistic that wants to bully someone over it? I think you need a stuffed animal and some crayons to help calm down. I can loan you some.
I will happily delete this if I’m derailing or taking away from the original message (initially I put this in the tags, but a friend asked me to reblog as text)
If you don’t want to pursue an autism or adhd diagnosis and you have access to a doctor or therapist you can get them to write you a note attesting to a symptom of your neurodivergence (rather than naming the condition itself) and stating the need for accommodation.
It’s something my therapist told me about when we were still working in offices. I have sensory processing issues and on multiple occasions the noise in my office was so bad I broke the skin on my hand clenching my fist.
This work-around of course won’t fix structural ableism and relies on you having access to a doctor/therapist who actually gives a crap, so still might only help a couple of folks.
Okay, since Pride is fast approaching, and all the Hot Takes about who should and shouldn’t be allowed at Pride, and “family friendliness”, and whatever have started. And we’re in a time of unprecedented legal attempts to imprison, persecute, and kill us, I’m going to expand on my comments on a different post:
A whole lot of people willfully misinterpreting “kink at pride” as some kind of live sex show on a float, and not people in leather and masks and pasties and thigh-highs and walking just a step behind their partner.
Whole lot of people completely ignoring the place that the leather community, and kinksters have in the early days of the gay liberation movement. And we would be literally nowhere without trans people taking up the fight for all of us. Nowhere.
Whole lot of people putting their hands over their eyes and covering their ears to avoid having to see the mile high writing on the wall that says “you’re next”.
Respectability politics has never gotten us anywhere where we’re safe. Anything other than a united front is going to get us all jailed and murdered with the state stamp of approval. So regardless of how you feel about how “normal” puppy play, or leather daddies are, guess what, they’re part of your community, so bite your tongue and fucking kumbaya, because as far as other people are concerned you are no different than they are.
Shut the fuck up about “normal”, because as far as the people making the laws are concerned, we’re all an aberration and they want us all out of the fucking parade. Sit down and read some history; this isn’t new, this isn’t their first time making us illegal. Right now, they’re targeting drag queens and transgender folks, and they are doing their best to turn their existence into criminal acts, so that they can be put to death. That’s happening, right now, everywhere. And again, you, in your cute little subtle rainbow T-shirt and khakis? You’re the same as those “dangerous queers” that are being legislated against. You’re giving next on the list.
Stop helping them sign our warrants because you’re uncomfortable with some fucking leather straps; the cops will be happy to round you up, too, in your business casual queer attire, when they’re done with the kinksters and the drag queens and our trans siblings. And then, we’ll be without some of our loudest and most passionate voices in the fight, because you didn’t like their god-damned outfits, or their fucking pronouns, and you let them be taken away for the sake of “normal”.
